• Do I matter deeply to my partner?
• Will he/she be there for me when I need them most?
• Do I feel safe and secure enough in this relationship to be my full and authentic self?
These questions are typically at the root of what couples fight about … the emotional bond and security in their relationship. When we fear that the answer to one of the above questions may be no, it can cause us to feel isolated and alone, and sometimes as though we are fighting for survival itself.
And fight we will … Or withdraw …
There is nothing more confusing and painful as losing connection and security with our intimate partner. When that happens we both scurry to do all we know to reconnect, and get close again … which often leads to increased levels of confusion, loneliness and conflict.
As an EFT therapist I seek to assist you in identifying the patterns and cycles of relating that keep you stuck in the same repetitive conversations and arguments. EFT is not about teaching communication skills, conflict resolution or bargaining. EFT is about getting underneath painful patterns and cycles … and getting to the heart of the matter for both of you ... so healing and re-connection can happen.
EFT is a highly researched, effective and evidence-based therapy that focuses on the emotional bond between you and your partner. It helps you and your partner learn not only to be more open and trusting with each other, but also to reach out for one another more effectively.
Visit these links for more information about EFT Couples Therapy: